Raymond Switzer M.Ed.

“In my work, I strive to help people become who they most authentically can be while deepening their ability to connect with others.”
– Raymond Switzer

Raymond is a Canadian psychologist, therapist, workshop leader, lecturer, writer and part-time musician living with his wife and children in Gödöllő, working out of the Avicenna Dental/Medical clinic in Budapest as well as his private office in Gödöllő. He has travelled widely across Europe giving seminars and workshops. Raymond is a believer in marriage, specialises in work with couples, and is a Certified Imago Relationship therapist. He also sees individuals with a variety of issues and concerns.

Education and work experience

Raymond did his studies in philosophy and psychology at the University of Alberta in Canada and was originally certified by the College of Alberta Psychologists. In Canada, he worked as a psychologist for Cold Lake Family and Community Support Services and, later, in his Private Practice, he worked with individuals and families in Cold Lake and in Bonnyville.  He also worked with Canada’s aboriginal peoples on various reserves in the area and had contracts to provide counseling services for employees of various companies in the area, including ESSO and BP.

He has been living with his wife, Furugh, and children Nasim (18) and Nabil(17) in Hungary since 1994 and is currently a member of the Hungarian Psychologists Association.  He has been trained in Imago Relationship Therapy and, so far, is the only psychologist certified in Imago Relationship Therapy in Hungary (learn more about Imago in the „Articles” page).

Orientation and perspectives

Besides Imago, Raymond is also inspired by the vision of marriage which emerges in the work of other successful marital therapists and researchers such as that of John Gottman, David Snarch, Dianne Sollee, Pat Love,  and John Gray, among others.  Although some of these seem critical of the others, he sees a convergence in vision. He believes that the requirements of enduring intimate relationships have changed and that, as we learn to face them, we are preparing ourselves for living in this world with greater spiritaul awareness and more ability to be creative actors in all spheres of life. We also provide a more solid ground for our children’s development and well-being.
He and his wife Furugh have conducted workshops and led seminars on relationships and parenting in Hungary, Germany, Austria, Croatia, Italy, Slovakia, the Czech Republic, Greece, Turkey, Poland, England, and Cyprus.

Raymond studied music at Boston’s Berklee College of Music, plays guitar and has produced two CDs with many of his compositions (see Links). He has also studied shiatsu (Japanese acupressure) and has given workshops in this.

Raymond’s work with couples

Ruptures in our relationships to others, especially the struggles with our life partner, often seem to be the most painful experiences in our lives. Although these trials may seem to us the most entrenched, and impossible to work through, there is a purpose to this union. While marriage seems almost designed to bring us to the brink of despair it presents potent opportunities for growth and self-realization.

What it takes to make marriages work has changed.  The skills needed for this transformation do not come automatically and are not yet a part of our socialization.  About his work, Raymond says, “I am frequently humbled, both by the ability and courage of couples to move through the most seemingly hopeless grid locks, and by the renewed feelings of love they feared to have lost forever.”It is his belief that the marital bond has such potential for healing that when married individuals approach him for personal therapy, he usually asks to see them, at least as part of their therapy, with their spouse.
For those who are in a committed relationship and have concerns about the effectiveness of therapy in saving or enriching relationships, the following article discusses what to look for and what to avoid in marital therapy: HOW THERAPY CAN BE HAZARDOUS TO YOUR  MARITAL HEALTH by William J. Doherty, PhD. It can be found at http://www.smartmarriages.com/hazardous.html

Therapy. Couple’s sessions are generally scheduled to last two hours, starting with more frequent sessions and moving to more spaced out sessions and closure.  Each session is geared to help the couple develop skills and acquire the knowledge needed to make their relationship flourish without the presence of a therapist.
Intensives. Intensive sessions, from one to three days duration, are arranged for couples who reside out of Hungary. These can take place either in the Gödöllő office or, schedule permitting, arrangements can be made to travel to the couples’ home town.
Coaching. For those who feel their relationship is functional but wish to enrich it by learning new skills and gaining insights into the dynamics of a healthy relationship, a ten-session program for individual couples is available.

Raymond’s work with individuals

Personal psychotherapy and counselling. Raymond works with individuals in the following areas:

  • Addictions, codependency
  • Grief, loss
  • Cross-cultural issues and concerns
  • Self-esteem
  • Panic, Anxiety and Depression
  • Separation and divorce
  • Managing Conflict and Anger
  • Managing and Reducing Stress
  • Recovery from Domestic and Sexual Abuse
  • Dealing With Life Transitions
  • Normal Problems of Everyday Life
  • Everyday life skills
  • Job Burnout and Career Shifts

Singles. In addition to the above, Raymond works with singles who have not yet found success in the relationship field and are still struggling to find a commited, life-long partner. Just as the rules of marriage have changed, so must the way we prepare for marriage change. His book, Conscious Courtship: Finding Someone to Love for the Rest of your Life (GRBooks.com), outlines the theoretical perspective from which he approaches his work with singles. He also works with singles in groups and is trained in using the Imago singles group process (Keeping the Love You Find).

Coaching

  • Time management
  • Issues for managers
  • Team building
  • Balancing work and family